What is anger?

Anger is a natural human response and part of the fight flight safety system which can help us to stay safe and appendicitis in dangerous situations and it can vary from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. It can become a problem when it happens frequently, leaving you feeling out of control, perhaps overreacting to situations that may lead to those around you being hurt emotionally or physically. 

What are the triggers?

Anger may arise when we feel we have been treated unfairly on unjust. Anger can also be caused by outside problems such as difficulties with others, debt and practical problems, frustrating events and situations or stress and having no time for yourself. All of these things can affect each other, and anger can spiral out of control. Anger can be a signal that something is wrong in your life, and it can spoil relationships, affect work and if it leads to violence or aggression can get you in trouble with low. Sometimes anger start to be a problem when it never was in the past this can be stress related.

Some people tend to be more angry than others research has shown that by nature they may have a low tolerance to frustrations or never had the opportunity to learn to control their angry or express our feelings more helpfully. 

What are the signs/symptoms?
  • Anger or agitation and irritability at the slightest thing
  • restlessness on edge feeling uptight
  • flashes of rage
  • physical symptoms may be heart pounds, chest feels tight, stomach churns, tense muscles, feeling hot and sweaty, head buzzing and pounding.
  • snappy and irritable behaviour shouting arguing and lashing out
  • Throwing or hitting an object, slamming doors
  • saying unkind of sarcastic things
  • pushing someone or hurting yourself
  • crying or bottling things up
Self Help

It is best to understand your anger and find solutions possible and regain control. This way you are more likely to learn ways of handling situations that make you angry. 

A useful exercise is the Anger Iceberg

Talking to someone can sometimes help understand triggers that cause you to feel angry and learn ways to manage it better. Finding ways to manage stress and anxiety may also reduce symptoms of anger so it’s important to look after yourself and your needs.

What support is available from the Youth Trust